そんなとき、親としてはどう対応すべきなのでしょうか？[/ffb_param][/ffb_paragraph_0][ffb_emptySpace_0 unique_id=”1h6nsnog” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22height%22%3A%2230%22%7D%7D%7D”][/ffb_emptySpace_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1h45cotn” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h2%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22150%22%7D%2C%22borders%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-one-border%22%3A%7B%22one-border%22%3A%7B%22type%22%3A%22border-bottom%22%2C%22width%22%3A%222%22%2C%22color%22%3A%22%23059100%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2224%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]１ 相談に乗り、説得する[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb5m2s5″ data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]これまでの頑張りを思い出させてあげる[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb5mq46″ data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]スイミングの場合、「最初はビート板がないと泳げなかったのに、今はこんなに泳げるようになったね」と、これまで頑張ってきた写真や動画、エピソードなどを聞かせてあげると、子どもももう少し頑張ってみようと思うかもしれません。[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1h90mogh” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]これまでの頑張りを思い出させてあげる[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1h90oruq” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]スイミングの場合、「最初はビート板がないと泳げなかったのに、今はこんなに泳げるようになったね」と、これまで頑張ってきた写真や動画、エピソードなどを聞かせてあげると、子どもももう少し頑張ってみようと思うかもしれません。[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb4sv0e” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]目の前の目標を設定する[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb4tjsd” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]スイミングや跳び箱のように、目標を数字で設定しやすい場合には、「50m泳げるようになるまで頑張ってみよう」や「跳び箱6段跳んでからまた考えてみない？」と目標を設定してあげるといいかもしれません。
目標があればとりあえずそれに向かって頑張りますし、その過程で辞めたい気持ちが消えることもあります。[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb4un65″ data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]父親が相談に乗る[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb4vbdu” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]普段よく怒るお母さんの言うことは全然聞かないけど、優しいお父さんの言うことは素直に聞く、なんて子どももいます。また、違う視点・アプローチによるアドバイスによって、子どもがストンと納得する場合もあります。[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb50lir” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]別の教室に移る[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb517un” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]子どもは習い事そのものが嫌なのではなく、その教室の先生や生徒、指導スタイル、雰囲気が嫌というだけの場合もあります。
同じ習い事の別教室が近くにある場合には、そちらに移り様子を見てみるのも良いかもしれません。[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb525gj” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]辞めたい理由を取り除いてあげる[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb52bs4″ data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]辞めたい理由が、自分をからかう他の子どもがいるからという場合、先生に注意してもらうことで辞めたい理由が取り除かれるかもしれません。
もっとも、小学校低学年ならこの方法で効果のある場合でも、高学年となると相手を怒らせて逆効果なんてこともあります。辞めたい理由がからかいのレベルを超えているような場合には、辞めさせてあげるべき場合もあるでしょう。
[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb53ui5″ data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h3%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%22bg%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-color%22%3A%7B%22color%22%3A%7B%22bg-color%22%3A%22%23efefef%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22pd-xs%22%3A%7B%22t%22%3A%225%22%2C%22r%22%3A%225%22%2C%22b%22%3A%225%22%2C%22l%22%3A%225%22%7D%2C%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22500%22%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2218%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]続けた場合の将来を示してあげる[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_list_0 unique_id=”1hb5479r” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22lst%22%3A%7B%22list%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-list-item%22%3A%7B%22list-item%22%3A%7B%22one-text%22%3A%7B%22item-text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22blank%22%3A%22null%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen lst list 0-|-list-item list-item one-text item-text”]例えば英会話教室の場合、「今やめちゃっても〇年後にはまたやらなくちゃいけないよ？今もうちょっと頑張って得意になってしまえば英語の授業が楽しくなるかもしれないよ？」などと辞めた場合と続けた場合の可能性を示し選択させてあげれば、考えを変えるかもしれません。
[/ffb_param][/ffb_list_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb55egj” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h2%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22150%22%7D%2C%22borders%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-one-border%22%3A%7B%22one-border%22%3A%7B%22type%22%3A%22border-bottom%22%2C%22width%22%3A%222%22%2C%22color%22%3A%22%23059100%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2224%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]２ すぐに辞めさせるのではなく休憩期間を設ける[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_paragraph_0 unique_id=”1hb56ohe” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]子どもが習い事を辞めたがっているときに、無理強いしてしまっては、子どもは余計に嫌悪感を感じるかもしれません。また、辞めたいのに辞めることができなく、精神的に押しつぶされてしまうこともあります。
辞めたい気持ちが一時的なものである可能性もあり、今辞めさせてしまってはもったいない、という場合には、一度休憩時間を与えてあげるのも良いでしょう。
少ししたら、子どもの方から「やっぱり行く！」と言い出すかもしれませんし、続けたい気持ちを再確認して熱中するようになるかもしれません。[/ffb_param][/ffb_paragraph_0][ffb_heading_0 unique_id=”1hb599rr” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22tag%22%3A%22h2%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%2C%22b-m%22%3A%7B%22mg-xs%22%3A%7B%22r%22%3A%22150%22%7D%2C%22borders%22%3A%7B%220-%7C-one-border%22%3A%7B%22one-border%22%3A%7B%22type%22%3A%22border-bottom%22%2C%22width%22%3A%222%22%2C%22color%22%3A%22%23059100%22%7D%7D%7D%7D%2C%22clrs%22%3A%7B%22font-size%22%3A%2224%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]３ 辞めさせる[/ffb_param][/ffb_heading_0][ffb_paragraph_0 unique_id=”1hb5dtrm” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]きちんと相談に乗ったうえで、それでも本当に子どもが辞めたがっているときには、辞めさせてあげましょう。
「中途半端に辞めさせては敗北感を与えてしまう」と思う方もいるかもしれませんが、執拗に子どもを説得しては子どもが精神的に弱ってしまいますし、逆に「自分は駄目な子なんだ」と敗北感を与えてしまうことにもなりかねません。
全然別の習い事を始めてみたら、水を得た魚のように生き生きとすることもあります。[/ffb_param][/ffb_paragraph_0][ffb_paragraph_0 unique_id=”1hb5f13f” data=”%7B%22o%22%3A%7B%22gen%22%3A%7B%22ffsys-disabled%22%3A%220%22%2C%22ffsys-info%22%3A%22%7B%7D%22%2C%22text-is-richtext%22%3A%220%22%2C%22align%22%3A%22text-left%22%2C%22align-sm%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-md%22%3A%22%22%2C%22align-lg%22%3A%22%22%7D%7D%7D”][ffb_param route=”o gen text”]以上、3つのパターンについて見てきました。
ケースバイケースなので、ベストな対応を断言することはできませんが、子どもに辞めたい理由をちゃんと聞いてあげ、選択肢を与えてあげたうえで、子どもの考えを尊重してあげる姿勢が大切です。[/ffb_param][/ffb_paragraph_0]
